"But the diagnosis is wrong, it is not marriage which causes the death of love, but rather the lack of love which death of marriage, love out side of marriage, however, easily becomes a destructive bush fire which in the end devours the lovers.
"There is one possibility which is very rarely envisaged by these film and novels, It is the possibility of happy married love,  of love as an integral part of the triangle, the true therapy lies here alone, it has to be applied, however, before love dies completely and the other two angles of the triangle are infected."
"Let us go to the next patient, the next couple, their problem is at the top of the triangle, I call this sickness 
                          The Stolen Marriage
"The symptoms in this case are as follows,  the two think they love each other, they also have sexual intercourse with each other, but they are not yet legally married.
"This is one of the greatest temptation of our time, to consider the legal act of the wedding as a mere formality, as unimportant piece of paper, which one can get some day, or maybe not at all, one pretends that the two angles of love and sex represent the whole of marriage.
  "Some people in all seriousness, propose trial marriage, they suggest that a couple live together for a while in order to see whether they fit together,if then they come to the conclusion that they do not, they can separate with out risking a divorce.
But the whole proposition rests upon the illusion that the two angles of sex and love represent the whole, since  they do not, marriage can not be tested in that way.
 
"The relationship is sick, the symptoms are as follows, broken hearts and destroyed lives, especially as far as the girl is concerned, I don't know how you feel about it but in many cultures a girl who has lost her virginity has very little chance of getting married.
In our country, a girl who had a child out of wedlock is a great disadvantage, the results is that often a hurried and forced marriage take place when the girl discovers she is expecting a baby, many of these marriage end in divorce later on.
"We must consider also the children who grow out of these alliances, they are deprived of the shelteredness of marriage. 
"The top of the tent is gone, It rains in they are deprived not only of the wholeness of the marriage tent but also of a father, it is hard to overestimate what this means in the life of the a child, certainly the top of the tent, the wedlock, is essential."
 At this point, I could not help but think of my anonymous caller, was she in the audience again this evening? this thought prompted me to add the following remarks:
"Those who cut off the top of the tent and practice "free love" or trial marriage" usually forget to say that this makes the use of contraceptive a necessity.
They pretend that this would not have any effect either on the person who apply them or on their relationship, but this is not true, especially in premarital situation certain contraceptive methods represent a definite menace to the spontaneity and dignity of love .
Here I hesitated, I didn't know how much I should go into detail, I pointed with my finger at the my notes which mentioned "early withdrawal,"heavy petting," condom , Daniel glanced at the words and took his head slightly, this tear work in the pulpit was a wonderful experience for me, I complied of course and continued.
"I repeat, it is a handicap for love, we can make the same observation now which we made before when we studied the case of the empty marriage, if one of the angle of the triangle get sick, the other two are affected and infected as well, they get into a quarrel with each other.
"When love is lacking, sex and marriage fall apart, if there has been no wedding, then love and sex become hostile to each other.
"The sexual union often take place hurriedly and secretly under undignified circumstances, thus the experience does not make love blossom and flower, but makes it wither away.
"We have this problem very often in Europe and America.
A recent German film, one of the rare good ones, illustrated very well the disease of stolen marriage, the film showed a young couple living together very happily, after the film had run about twenty minutes, the viewers realized that the couple were not married, friends and relatives tried to convince them to marry.
But them refused, at first everything went all right, then the girl became pregnant, the love and confidence between them was not deep enough for her to tell her "husband" she was afraid that he would leave her, she therefore decided to have an abortion secretly.
"The last scene show her lying exhausted on the couch in their apartment after the operation, he comes home from work and understands what had happened, he sit down at the other end of the large and empty table which separate them, silence reigns.
Neither one speak, they have nothing to say to each other any more, because of the missing angle of the wedding, love has no chance to prove it durability and genuineness, sex became the death of love.
As I paused for a moment, I sensed a certain reaction among the young people from the expression in their eyes I concluded that this film could have been made in their city too.
"Let us go to the next patients in our marriage hospital, there is a third class of marriage disease they have to do with the right angle of the the triangle, this angle also can fall ill, I would call this sickness,
   
                   The Unfulfilled Marriage
"First of all let me describe the situation, the couple is married, legally married and has been for ten or twenty years already, they love each other dearly and would never think of divorce but in spite of this love, their physical fellowship remains unsatisfactory and unfulfilled.