There was a long debate when two different cultures were united in one big event, where the Javanese tradition, which has many taboos, is also contrary to the Manado custom, Javanese before marriage, before carrying out a procession before marriage, before carrying out a reception procession, date and time.the year is always taken into account, the good day is calculated if the grandfather said, while the Manado custom doesn't need to be like that, actually there are many similarities but the implementation is slightly different, so from here we discussed to find a middle point so that all customs can be acceptedcarried out, after discussions between the candidate's family and my family we finally decided to unite the two customs but are more dominant in Javanese customs because our customs are almost the same.
.Javanese traditional weddings have many processions that must be carried out by the bride and groom and also the bride's family. The number of Javanese traditional wedding processions does not necessarily only enliven the wedding. There are so many meanings contained in each Javanese traditional wedding procession
.In the Javanese traditional wedding procession, there are several processions before the wedding takes placeit aims so that each bride and her family can prepare themselves, as well as to pray and ask to be prayed for by the extended family so that the wedding goes smoothly and life after the wedding goes smoothly.....This is intended so that each bride and groom and their families can prepare themselves, as well as to pray and ask for prayers from the extended family so that the wedding goes smoothly and life after the wedding goes smoothly.
some pre-wedding Javanese traditional wedding processions:
.install Tarub, Bleketepe, and Tawuhan
The Javanese traditional wedding procession begins with the installation of tarub, bleketepe, and tawuhan.
Tarub is a temporary roof or shade in the yard, which is decorated with curved leaves. .because the shade function has been replaced with an easier and more functional tent, the tarub is used only as a symbol.
Bleketepe is woven old coconut leaves that are installed by the parents of the bride.
.while tuwuhan are plants such as plantains, young coconuts, rice stalks, coconut leaves, which are installed on the left and right of the gate. Tuwuhan means hope that the bride and groom will have healthy, ethical, affluent, and happy offspring.
Sungkeman..
Both brides and grooms do sungkeman to their respective parents. This traditional Javanese Sungkeman wedding procession intends to ask for prayers and blessings from the parents of the bride and groom.
Siraman
The next Javanese traditional wedding procession is siraman. .Siraman has a meaning as self-purification with the aim that when entering the wedding day, the bride and groom are both physically and mentally pure.
Siraman is carried out by both parents, followed by the closest family or those who are married for their blessing. .sprinklers are assigned an odd number of people, usually seven or nine.
Adol Dawet
Adol dawet which in Indonesian is selling dawet. Selling dawet is done by the parents of the bride and groom to the invited guests who are present.
.but not literally sold, this Javanese traditional wedding procession has the intention of parents who set an example to the bride and groom that life after marriage must work together.
Midodareni
Midodareni is defined as an angel. .The night procession before releasing this single period has the hope that the bride-to-be will look beautiful the next day like an angel from heaven.
.In this procession, the bride-to-be is only accompanied by her family and is prohibited from meeting her future husband because she will receive advice related to marriage.
Javanese traditional wedding procession at the peak of the marriage ceremony:.
Wedding ceremony
This procession takes place when the bride and groom bind and carry out the oath in front of the penghulu, parents, guardians, and invited guests to inaugurate the marriage religiously.
.In this Javanese traditional wedding procession, the bride and groom will wear white traditional Javanese clothes as a symbol of purity.
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Panggih which in Indonesian means to meet. .this procession is where the two officially married brides meet as husband and wife
Balang Gantal
Gantal or betel is a white thread that is tied. Then the bride and groom will throw the pillow at each other.
.the groom throws the pillow towards the bride's chest which means that he has taken the lover's heart, while the bride will point the pillow to the man's knee as a sign of devotion to her husband.
Wijikan
Wijikan is also known as ranupada. .ranu means water and pada means foot.
This ritual is performed by the bride who waters the groom's feet three times. This procession reflects the form of wife's devotion to her husband, and removes obstacles to a happy household.
Satire
In this procession, the bride and groom will be wrapped in a sindur cloth while being escorted to the aisle by the bride's father.
.It is hoped that the red and white sindur will give the bride and groom the courage to live their wedding with passion and passion.
Weighing Weight
.This procession is carried out by the bride's father who weighs his own child and son-in-law by holding the bride and groom on their lap.
Then, the mother of the bride and groom will ask the father, who is heavier among them. Then, dad will answer if they both weigh the same.
.The meaning of this procession is that it is hoped that both children will know that there is no difference in affection between them...
Showing Rujak with
Rujak degan is a drink made from young coconut shavings. The procession of drinking coconut water is carried out in turns in one glass for one family.
The procession starts from the father to be passed on to the mother, then given to the bride and groom. .Coconut water means holy water that can cleanse the spirit of all family members.
Dulang
This procession is a procession of feeding the bride and groom three times as a symbol that the bride and groom will always help each other and also love each other until they are old.
.sungkeman
The last Javanese traditional wedding procession is the sungkeman. Sungkeman done second
the bride and groom to their respective parents and continued to their in-laws as a sign of respect for the parents who had raised them until they were married.
After carrying out all the customs the next day we carried out a reception procession
.by going through the procession of the pora sword which is a tradition of respect for military marriages which aims to release singles for military officers. .the troops use swords together to form a gate, the procession goes accompanied by the sound of drums that accompanies the bride and groom. After passing through the gate of pora, the army of Sword of Pora accompanies by walking upright behind the bride and groom.
.The procession continues with the troops making a circle around the bride and groom by drawing their swords upwards to form an umbrella formation called Umbrella Pora. .Next, the bride and groom will receive a ring and for the bride, will get a bhayangkari uniform which is a symbol that she is ready to become a soldier's wife..