everyone has a different culture with others, no matter how small the difference. Different cultures have different value systems and therefore can be one of the determinants of different goals in life. .the way each person communicates is highly dependent on his culture; language, rules and norms respectively. Culture has responsibility for the entire repertory of communicative behavior and meanings that each person has. .As a consequence, the treasuries of two people from different cultures will also be different, this can cause various kinds of difficulties..the communication difficulties faced by the individuals involved are caused by differences in their respective cultural expectations. Differences in cultural expectations can pose a fatal risk. .different expectations in communication at least cause communication not smooth, feelings of discomfort or misunderstanding arise. Misunderstandings will often occur when someone often interacts with people from different cultural groups. .The main problem is that every individual has a tendency to think that his or her culture is a must without question. And because of that, everyone will use his or her culture as a standard to measure other cultures. .one form of intercultural communication activity that can be seen in the life of intermarried familiesin mixed-married family life there will be a misunderstanding of intercultural communication, which involves all family members; husband, wife, children, and even other family members who live in the same house. .this situation can result in the emergence of an agreement to recognize one of the cultures that will b dominate or the development of another culture which is a fusion of the two cultures (third culture), or even both cultures can go hand in hand in one family..Even though a mixed-married family interacts with each other frequently, even in the same language, this does not mean that communication will run smoothly or that mutual understanding will naturally be created. .this is because, among other things, some of these individuals still have prejudice against other cultural groups and are reluctant to associate with them.
The barriers to intercultural intermarriage are complex. .considering the existence of different cultures so that conflicts are more likely to occur.Understanding culture, especially in the context of different interpersonal relationships, is certainly not an easy thing, therefore husband and wife are required to want to understand the reality of each other's culture and understand the existence of diversity, this is as one of the functions of intercultural communication in..the context of interpersonal relations.The function of interpersonal communication is trying to improve human relations (human relations), avoiding and overcoming personal conflicts, reducing the uncertainty of something, and sharing knowledge and experience with othersunite the two ethnic groups from existing differences.It is necessary to have an attitude of tolerance and sympathy so that marriages run in harmony. Committed as a married couple, of course, every couple will accept and be willing to enter.
different social and cultural environment. To be able to accept this, of course, requires tolerance and openness from oneself. Those who marry not only unite themselves, but also their entire extended family. .Adjustment is a process where adjustment in marriage takes place, it should be cultivated continuously throughout the age of marriage, so that each partner must be able to deal with situations and conditions that are always changing..

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Pentingnya toleransi antar budaya dalam suatu pernikahan,dari toleransi ini antar budaya akan menghormati setiap keputusan budaya lain,akan mendengarkan saran dari budaya lain untuk mencapi tujuannya,dengan toleransi ini dapat menyatukan dua budaya yang berbeda seperti pada budaya orang tuaku yang berasal dari jawa dengan budaya keluarga bang Rizky yang dari Manado,dengan toleransi ini keluarga lebih menghargai sesama lebih menghormati sesama meskipun berbeda budaya ,meskipun diawal pembicaraan selalu ada pertentangan tetapi di akhirnya akan mencapai kesepakatan yang adil ,yang dapat menyatukan kedua budaya,dengan toleransi budaya ini mereka akan lebih menekan egonya dan akan membaur bersama budaya lain agar tercipta suasana yang kondusif.
The importance of tolerance between cultures in a marriage, from this tolerance between cultures will respect every decision of other cultures, will listen to suggestions from other cultures to achieve their goals, with this tolerance can unite two different cultures such as the culture of my parents who came from Java with this culture. Rizky's family from Manado, with this tolerance the family respects each other more respects each other even though different cultures, although at the beginning of the conversation there are always conflicts but in the end will reach a fair agreement, which can unite the two cultures, with this cultural tolerance they will put more pressure ego and will blend in with other cultures to create a conducive atmosphere.
Diversity should make us proud and consider diversity as a gift. With diversity we must respect everyone, respect equality even though they come from different ethnic groups and cultures. .“Bhinekka Tunggal Ika”, different but still one, is the motto of our country which is printed on the icon of our country, the Garuda bird. However, it is recognized that diversity itself has a positive side and a negative side.
Treat someone like you want to be treated
If you want to be respected by others, then respect others first. .you should treat someone who may be different with good manners, just as you would expect others to be kind to you. For example, when a friend of a different faith is celebrating his religious holiday, give him a sincere greeting. .A simple attitude like this will have a positive influence on the life of diversity in Indonesia.
Remember, We Are Brothers
Do you have friends of different races, ethnicities, or religions? Keep in mind that you and he are brothers and sisters. .it is proper for compatriots and countrymen to love one another. By realizing the meaning of this compatriot and compatriot, I hope that you too will appreciate diversity more in your daily life..
Long before I myself understood what a difference meant, the word was already in our midst. Maybe God created it on purpose so that we know what it means to respect each other. So that we can respect each other between rich and poor, young and old, male and female. .Unfortunately, not all humans are aware of it.Appreciating the fellow creatures of God is not at all detrimental. Precisely by respecting each other, we can feel more peaceful and at peace. Precisely by respecting differences we can increase knowledge. There is nothing to worry about with mutual respect and respect. .we have nothing to lose.
After all, life is a time where we have the opportunity to increase friendship and friendship. It doesn't matter rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, black or white. .for me, not only ethnic and cultural differences, even small differences should not be an excuse for us to be hostile to each other.
Indeed, the difference is beautiful when interpreted wisely. .just look at the rainbow, the multicolored light that God painted on His sky when the rain in the morning began to subside. The hue of the color is very attractive even though none of the colors are the same. All the colors are different, but it's the differences that make them beautiful..