"What if I still can't forgive? It's okay if you aren't ready to forgive someone; just take some time to think about it. If you decide you are ready, but you're having trouble working through the steps, you can also try these suggestions:
Talk about the situation with people you trust. An outsider's perspective can help shed new light on things.
Write down your thoughts and emotions. They can become clearer once they're on paper.
Speak to a professional. If your experience is particularly hard or complicated, it can be really useful to talk to an expert, such as a counsellor.
Forgiveness isn't always an easy process, and it's understandable if you struggle with it. But it's worth trying out some of the suggestions above, to see if you can re-shape the way you think and feel about the past and let go of any hurt feelings around it." the preacher added.
Rhea was being hit by its words and statements. It's not just her but all of them who were there at that hall.
"Forgive and forget is an oft-repeated piece of advice with biblical origins. Although it might seem trite, there's a reason this little phrase still gets uttered so often. There's true wisdom in forgiving and forgetting. When someone really hurts you, you may question whether you want to forgive someone; it may, in fact, seem utterly unnatural. But there are many reasons why it's sometimes better to forgive and forget, even if part of you doesn't want to. Here are just a few of them." the preacher said.
Rhea was focusing to listen at the preacher. She really needs it.
"Forgiveness doesn't condone their actions. Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was OK, and it doesn't mean that person should still be welcome in your life. (Your boundaries still matter, and grudges can be part of forgiving.)
Forgiveness just means that you've made peace with the pain, and you are ready to let it go. "Acknowledge the good, the bad, and the beautiful from your time together and know that it all served an important purpose in both of your lives." he said.
Ivanna was thinking to see and visit Rhea so she asked her best friend to see Elise first. Her husband doesn't know about her plan. Ivy was so curious where is she going.
"Ivanna, where are you going?" she asked.
"I'm going to see and talk to Rhea for the last time." Ivanna said.
Ivy sighed.
"Okay, just come back sooner." Ivy said.
Ivanna kissed her baby and went to her car. She headed to the prison straightly.
"Mrs. Villareal, what are you doing here?" it was the head of the police.
"Sir, I came here to talk and see Andrea West." she smiled.
The police told her that they were still having a preaching time.
"Okay, how many remaining time left?" she asked.
"Just ten minutes." he said.
Ivanna insisted to wait for her and the police even offered her a coffee.
"Thank you." she said.
"You're welcome, so how is your baby?" he asked.
Ivanna smiled.
"She's good and healthy." she said.
"I'm so happy for you." he said.
They were having a talk to wait for the preaching time to be finished.
"Forgiveness is not for other people. Forgiveness is not something we do for others⁠-it's something we do for ourselves.
Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of staying trapped in a jail cell of bitterness, serving time for someone else's crime. "It's a mixture of anger, depression, and blame. But most of all, the opposite of forgiveness is stagnation," psychologist Kristina Hallett, Ph.D." It's getting mired in an emotional place regarding a particular incident, and it prohibits future growth and discovery. There's a common saying: Not forgiving someone is like slowly poisoning yourself and secretly hoping the other person dies." You make the choice to either dwell on the pain caused by others, or you can forgive and move on.
Forgiveness is a sign of strength.
Gandhi once said "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." It takes a strong person to face pain head-on, forgive, and release it.
"Your ability to forgive someone often has little to do with that person or what they did," Hallett says. "Merriam-Webster defines forgiveness as 'to cease to feel resentment against an offender' or 'to give up resentment of or claim to requital.' It's an internal state of being, and it's not dependent on anyone but you. The only person in control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions-and the only one who can make a shift occur-is you."
We also deserve forgiveness.
Hallett points out that our inability to forgive others can stem from an inability to forgive ourselves. The lack of acceptance for others may even fuel a lack of acceptance for ourselves.
Others deserve forgiveness, just like we do.
Forgiveness is healing. You'll get a pretty sweet bonus.
If none of the above appeals to you, then you might want to take the advice of Oscar Wilde:
"Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them s
"When we hold onto a resentment, grievance, shame, guilt, or pain from the past, our entire body-mind suffers," Deepak Chopra has told. "Ultimately forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves. We can benefit from forgiving even if the person we forgive isn't aware of our feelings or is even no longer alive." To forgive someone is the highest, most beautiful form of love. You might just find that you get a sense of peace and happiness in return."
The preacher ended their session time and tomorrow, the preacher needs the prisoners to tell and share their stories.
"Andrea, what are you going to share tomorrow?" one of her mate asked.
Andrea smiled and remembered Ash's face the last time he went to see and talks to her.
"Just wait for tomorrow." she told her mate.
They were all excited and now they were back to their own bored dungeon inside.